When I was younger, I was a cheerleader for a couple of years. I remember dressing up in a cute little suit and putting my hair in a ponytail with a bow. I remember going to practice and learning fun chants, cheers, and dances. I remember going to games and cheering on the sidelines. I remember meeting the other teams' cheerleaders. But that is about it. I don't remember if we ever won or lost. I don't think I cared about the game or understood the rules. I don’t know if we made a difference. I just dreamt of being a cheerleader and thought it was a fun thing to do.
Life lesson: Learn why you should cheer
Early in our marriage, Brian was a student pastor. Students would frequently come to me with complaints about Brian. I didn't like it, but sometimes they were right. I decided I would become Brian's cheerleader. I began to tell students to take their complaints elsewhere. I was the self-proclaimed President (and sometimes only member) of his fan club. I stood beside him in public, always. Of course there were times in private when I questioned his decisions or made suggestions regarding his choices, but on the sidelines, out in the game, I always cheered.
I am certain I didn't know enough about the game of marriage to know what was going on, but I began to see amazing things happen. The more I cheered for Brian, the more I began to believe in him, the more he changed. You know, I think that is why God said in Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him.” Many, many times if I had joined the jeers or partnered with the naysayers, Brian would have been alone. So, I stood by Brian. I knew he wasn’t perfect, but I chose to cheer. Isn’t that what our Lord does for us? Remember, while we were still sinning, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8) Admittedly, I still don’t understand all the rules of the game, but I do understand that I can make a difference in the life of others. Especially my number one guy!